I was born with red hair. Not Daphne Black from Scooby Doo red hair either- more like Pippy Longstocking. Strangers would compliment me all the time as if it were such a rare sighting. I hated it, every minute of it. I would cringe every time an older adult would start doing the crouch-walk toward me because I knew exactly what they were going to say "you have beautiful red hair, I bet you hear that a lot". I would just smile and nod, but deep down I resented my red hair.
I think the main reason why I felt so strongly about my hair was because that's how everyone identified me ("Meg with the red hair"), not to mention the obvious target on my back for the mean girls. I would pray and pray that my children would not have red hair so they wouldn't have to go through what I went through. I'm not saying this to get sympathy, but to emphasize my strong feelings on the subject.
Then, I had my daughter.
Oh hey, perspective...
One of the many, many things that I love and adore about her is her hair. It is so beautiful, and she gets it from me. My entire life's feelings and emotions about my hair are completely null and void. Savannah has gorgeous, silky strawberry blond hair with perfect little banana curls. I wonder how she'll feel about her hair as she gets older. I wonder if kids will still be cruel or if she'll be strong enough to face them head on. I wonder if she will pray that her children don't have her hair. I understand that I can't protect her forever- a tough pill for any Mom to swallow. I can give her the guidance and the tools to react confidently and appropriately. She is already so strong and so sure of herself- untainted by her environment, the media, etc. Can't she stay like this forever...?
"We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorns have roses." - Aphonse Karr
Is there anything you didn't like about yourself growing up that you've passed on to your children. Have you had a change of heart? Comment below!
It's funny, I was staring at my pile of dirty dishes in the sink today and I didn't even care. Pre-baby, there were never dirty dishes, the bed was always made, and there wasn't a crumb on the floor. I used to joke with my friends and family about having Obsessive Compulsive Disorder because everything had to be "just-so". I still love having a clean house and everything put in its place, but I guess what I'm trying to say it that it doesn't get under my skin like it used to. I think this has something to do with the amount of energy my body is allotting me and now-a-days it is mostly consumed with caring for my 18 month old. On the flip side, I am even more concerned with the food we consume, weather appropriate clothing, and carseat placements.
In fact, almost everything has changed since having a baby- relationships especially. Relationships with family, friends, co-workers...everyone! Some relationships drift apart and others become closer. Some relationships that have been taken for granted are now seen at face value. Some people rise to the occasion and others fade off in the distance. It's all so interesting and there's really no way to predict which relationship will go in which direction. I like to think that people are in ours lives for a reason and when the relationship has served its purpose, it is time to move on. As I mentioned earlier, we only have so much energy to expend and we need to choose wisely. It's hard to justify putting endless amounts of energy into a relationship that isn't reciprocating.
This is life, baby or no baby. Things change and relationships and perspectives adjust based on situations that occur in life. Shouldn't we all be experts when it comes to change once we reach a certain point in life? Think about how many changes we endure on a daily/weekly/yearly basis. I personally find change difficult, but I also believe it's positive and necessary.
How do you deal with change? Do you find it easy or difficult?
I first learned about the term “synchronicity” when I began my health coaching journey in March of 2017. Although I was unfamiliar with the term, I was quite familiar with its meaning.
“Synchronicity is the belief that the universe will help direct us on our authentic life path through meaningful occurrences that our souls manifest.”
In 2010, I decided it was time to snap out of a “life rut” I had been mulling in and get my act together. I had been going through the motions in college, not truly investing myself in my education or my friendships, just showing up physically with no graduation date in site. I had a waitressing job that I hated and I was in an unhealthy relationship that I hated even more. I woke up one day and decided that I didn’t want this to be my life anymore and I made a promise to myself that I was going to start living my authentic life. I truly believe that because I made this promise whole-heartedly, a domino effect of positive changes occurred.
Have you ever had an overwhelming feeling that you are right where you’re supposed to be? It’s happened to me 4 times in my lifetime- all after I made the decision to live my authentic life. The first time this happened I had just transferred from the University of North Carolina at Greensboro to Bridgewater State University to move closer to home. This was my second time transferring schools and my first time switching majors. I was behind in grades, but ahead in life- I wasn’t living in the dorms and couldn’t relate to any of the other “kids” in my class. Dr. Bowen walked in and started class. His enthusiasm and charisma breathed new life into me. This is when I knew I was on the right track. He has a wonderful way of teaching and communicating and I fell in love with the subject- this was the first time in 4 years of college that I felt like I could actually do this. Long story short, I ended up graduating in 2 years with a Bachelor Degree in Biology.
The second time I had this feeling was when I saw my Husband for the first time (cue the “aww’s”). I know, I know, how cliché. I had recently changed waitressing jobs and he walked in. I was immediately enthralled with him and wanted to know everything. It was more than a physical attraction, even though we hadn’t had a conversation yet or even made eye contact. I knew he was going to have an impact on my life, I just didn’t know how. My new friends informed me that he is one of the “regulars” that comes in every Monday, he’s a golfer, he’s 28, has a nice car, and has a big family. As the weeks went by, I would look forward to Mondays and hopefully get to learn more about this mystery guy. Eventually, we ended up going out and the rest is history. I can’t help but think of Granger Smith’s song “Happens Like That” when he says: “Ever wonder how just one drink turns into one knee down with a diamond ring.”
The third time I had an overwhelming feeling of being where I’m supposed to be was when I was driving up to Brigham and Women’s Faulkner Hospital for my internship interview. I found a year old internship opportunity posting on Bridgewater’s CareerLinks website. I figured I had nothing to lose and I hated my current waitressing job so, why not? I drove an hour and a half to my interview and as soon as I turned the corner and saw the front of the Hospital, I knew- something big was going to come out of this. This feeling for me was an infestation of butterflies in my body and my heart started to pound uncontrollably (in a good way). This is how the universe was telling me I’m on the right track.
The fourth time synchronicity washed over me was after I finished my first Health Coaching module. This is exactly what I was looking for and what I needed. This aligned with everything I believe in. I remember driving in my car with the windows rolled down, just so happy- not a care in the world, everything was perfect! I even saw a big, beautiful hawk sitting on the side of the busy road looking perfectly content- this has to be a sign, right?! I so badly wish I could bottle up this feeling and give myself a little spritz everytime I feel I need a little pick-me-up. There is no better feeling than knowing you are on the right path.
I am a very indecisive and cautious person, so it is truly gratifying to get these signs and feelings every so often that what I am doing is what I am supposed to be doing. Have you ever had a similar experience? What were you doing?
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